COVID-19 and Your Wedding
I wasn’t originally going to write anything about the COVID-19 pandemic. I’ve tried to be on social media less the last week just because my whole feed is nothing but articles and graphics about it. It can be overwhelming, confusing, and scary, and those are things that I don’t want to subject myself to unnecessarily. However, I have seen many posts in my feed from 2020 brides who are understandably concerned with all the unknowns and unchartered territory we’re facing. Its been weighing heavily on my heart, and my hope is that maybe I could help give even one person some peace of mind, instead of adding to the fear and anxiety that’s everywhere right now. Since this is an unprecedented situation, there’s not going to be a ‘checklist’ to follow, but I’ve listed some small things you can do if you’re dealing with the new event restrictions.
All information is correct at the time of writing, but be sure to check for updates from your local government. Here is a link to the event planning page on BC’s Centre for Disease Control website, which will show any updates.
Take a deep breath and try to put things in perspective.
Your wedding day is, above all else, the day you start forever with the love of your life. Try to keep this in mind as you start working through any hard decisions. This doesn’t mean you don’t have the right feel sad, stressed, or disappointed, but it might help you center yourself amid all the uncertainty.
Keep up to date on government recommendations.
At the time of writing, BC has limited gatherings to 50 people or less. The BCCDC link above has a few articles from the Government of Canada to assist with risk assessment for your event. Even if you have under 50 guests, or if you’re downsizing your guestlist to stay under the limit, take some time to check out these articles and consider if you have any high-risk guests planning to attend your wedding.
Contact vendors for cancelation policy.
Now is a good time to get ahead of the curve and have a conversation with each of your vendors about their change/cancelation policies. If you’re dealing with small businesses, try to remember that this might a stressful time for them as well. Many people who are self employed don’t have the benefit of employment insurance, and if they’re in the wedding industry, chances are income will be minimal during the outbreak with many weddings being canceled.
Consider eloping and celebrating with friends and family at a later date.
Eloping is one of the best solutions I can think of if you don’t want to cancel your wedding. Find a pretty spot outdoors, bring a couple witnesses (your photographer can even be one!), and say I do in an intimate but equally beautiful way. If you were really looking forward to that amazing party you were going to throw with all your friends and family, plan that for a later date when all your guests can safely attend.
Practice some self-care.
Wedding planning, especially the weeks leading up to the big day, is stressful at the best of times, never mind dealing with a pandemic that is shutting entire countries down on top of it all. Take a deep breath, and try to practice some self care during this time. Whatever that looks like to you – yoga, at home mani pedis, reading a good book – carve out some time for yourself!
It’s so unfortunate that brides are being put in such a difficult situation after planning for so long and putting so much time, effort, and heart into the preparations. There’s nothing easy about any of the decisions that need to be made by those getting married in the next month or two, especially. My heart goes out to you all, and you’ll be in my thoughts during this time. ❤️ I sincerely hope that the coronavirus pandemic is over soon, and that we look at all the measures being taken as an overreaction, BECAUSE THEY WORKED. In the meantime, be smart, be positive, remember all the things you have to be thankful for, and above all, be kind to your fellow humans – we all need to work together for the best possible outcome!